I am 56 years old, my son is 31. For years circumstances have widely separated us geographically. We have remained best friends through the wonders of technology. The kid got his first computer at age three. He is wildly creative, has over 100,000 words on a novel you will hear about soon enough. He has been home with me since early December, except for a few trips he took to visit others.
I irritate him a lot; I have bizarre idiosyncrasies. We get along, though, and we work together somewhat. He wants me to be bold, like himself, I am a coward. I asked him last night if he would go with me today. I explained it was Norma’s memorial service, for which Richard requested I write a poem and read it there. He surprised me and said yes. Alex is an inspiration to me always; we have been through so much.
We got Chick-Fil-A for lunch, which Alex puts up memes about being God’s restaurant. He allowed me to read the poem because I do not do public readings. He said I did it well. I thought, well, maybe I can do it.
We got there way early. My Mom always believed in being way early, and I seem to carry on her habit. We talked. We went inside, and I was reproached because there was an individual there, and I mentioned it to Alex. He was right, but… and he says there are no buts. Anyway, we went back outside. It did not seem many people I knew were about that early.
When we came back inside, one of the funeral directors talked to me and gave me an order of service. We spoke to Richard when the room opened. When we sat, one of my favorite people came up, and I got hugs. I love hugs. We promised to be better in touch. I hope it occurs.
When the service began, some very renowned poets were read by a very distinguished person. She opened the floor for attendees to speak, there was no movement or sound. So she said, maybe Jo Ann Jordan, who is a local poet, would like to say something. Yeah, me. I walked up to the steps and prayed that my knees would allow me to make it up to the podium. It was a near thing. You do not know my knees.
Next, I stumbled through the presentation.
Sometimes two people
Find the perfect match within
One another and mesh
So their souls permanently
Entwine, declaring them complete.
Cherishing each other
They come to understand
Their bond is so rich,
Their complement so pure;
Lives shared are exceptional.
Norma and Richard
Were always present to give,
Was required for their success;
And helping others do their best.
Love infused their lives
So there could be no doubt
To one another was sure and true,
Adoring, always respecting, the two.
They did it in perfect sync,
Creating things of which
Others could only dream;
They were a successful team.
Norma was a rare beauty,
Quiet in public, but given
To laughter and devotion,
Kind, tender, precious, sweetness,
Expressing love at home.
It is a tearful loss
Dealt out of season, against time,
The world a bit dimmer,
Without the smiles and gentleness
Norma so freely shared with all.
Dedication, work ethic,
Motivation we can
Hope to reflect, even as
We miss Norma’s selflessness.
© Jo Ann J. A. Jordan
Thursday, January 16, 2020
“With Norma and our two kitties, we have had a home full of continuous love, respect, laughter, and adoration.” – Mr. Richard Nichols
I did the poem reading my large print copy with some muddling when I had to change pages. When I did manage to look up, there was Alex, smiling, which no one knows how that helped.
I got all messed up on Richard’s quote adding extra ands, but it really is a miracle I could do it at all. I love and respect Norma and Richard more than I can express. They have been mentors and friends to me. My copy editing is directly due to their influence.
I forgot to pray before I headed down those steps, and what a mess I made.
The service was the most inspirational memorial I have ever seen. Richard spoke, and I managed not to cry there, but I have tears now.
Norma had a truly angelic spirit and was one of the most highly intelligent creative people ever. She will be sorely missed.
© Jo Ann J. A. Jordan